Comments on: The School Run http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/diary/the-school-run A wry and often humorous look at one woman's struggle through life. Tue, 13 Apr 2010 13:11:30 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Dylcruz http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/diary/the-school-run/comment-page-1#comment-1892 Dylcruz Wed, 10 Feb 2010 10:22:41 +0000 http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/?p=498#comment-1892 hey Dotty, stumbled upon you last night via twitter. I know where you are, I've been there and came back. everyso often I teeter on the edge, but I recognise the signs now and deal. I hope you are okay. You have so many people here in the nether-ethernet land looking out for you. Take Care DWNB hey Dotty,
stumbled upon you last night via twitter. I know where you are, I’ve been there and came back. everyso often I teeter on the edge, but I recognise the signs now and deal. I hope you are okay. You have so many people here in the nether-ethernet land looking out for you.
Take Care
DWNB

]]> By: Dan http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/diary/the-school-run/comment-page-1#comment-1881 Dan Tue, 09 Feb 2010 10:22:33 +0000 http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/?p=498#comment-1881 This is one of the hardest things about getting back into the world. You almost have to be weller to take that initial step than you do to live your everyday life once you ARE back - which is, of course, one of those awful ironies, because you're still in convalescence (which is why it's very good advice when GPs say to take off work as long as you need, and then take a little longer). It's exactly those lovely, concerned conversations that take most out of you - be prepared to be utterly exhausted, and to be able to do a lot less when you get home than you have been doing, because of the exhaustion - and you need to resist the urge to beat yourself up, or think that you're taking steps backwards when you find you can do less at home - it's perfectly natural given the enormous extra effort you're putting in - think of it the same as you would physiotherapy if you'd temporarily lost the use of your legs. You do knee lifts and what have you, but the first time you try walking, it'll exhaust you and make your muscles ache to high heaven. this is no different. Practically, one of the most draining things is being caught "on the hop" by well-meaning questions (and whilst you know they ARE well-meaning, it's a real struggle to remember it at the time, so don't worry that you're a terrible person if you come across a bit irritable - the fact you worry about ti is one of the things that makes you not a terrible person :)). There isn't an easy answer to that, but the best thing you can do is to rehearse and rehearse a "standard" answer. That way you've already put in the hard work at home, in a safe environment. You could even include a line like "sorry if I seem a bit distant at the moment". Another thing that really helps is very quickly turning the question round with something like "and I hope YOU've been OK" Sorry, that's a bit of a long ramble. Just wanted to pop by and introduce myself (@agnieszkasshoes) and say thank you for being so lovely to my wife :) This is one of the hardest things about getting back into the world. You almost have to be weller to take that initial step than you do to live your everyday life once you ARE back – which is, of course, one of those awful ironies, because you’re still in convalescence (which is why it’s very good advice when GPs say to take off work as long as you need, and then take a little longer). It’s exactly those lovely, concerned conversations that take most out of you – be prepared to be utterly exhausted, and to be able to do a lot less when you get home than you have been doing, because of the exhaustion – and you need to resist the urge to beat yourself up, or think that you’re taking steps backwards when you find you can do less at home – it’s perfectly natural given the enormous extra effort you’re putting in – think of it the same as you would physiotherapy if you’d temporarily lost the use of your legs. You do knee lifts and what have you, but the first time you try walking, it’ll exhaust you and make your muscles ache to high heaven. this is no different.

Practically, one of the most draining things is being caught “on the hop” by well-meaning questions (and whilst you know they ARE well-meaning, it’s a real struggle to remember it at the time, so don’t worry that you’re a terrible person if you come across a bit irritable – the fact you worry about ti is one of the things that makes you not a terrible person :) ). There isn’t an easy answer to that, but the best thing you can do is to rehearse and rehearse a “standard” answer. That way you’ve already put in the hard work at home, in a safe environment. You could even include a line like “sorry if I seem a bit distant at the moment”. Another thing that really helps is very quickly turning the question round with something like “and I hope YOU’ve been OK”

Sorry, that’s a bit of a long ramble. Just wanted to pop by and introduce myself (@agnieszkasshoes) and say thank you for being so lovely to my wife :)

]]> By: Anna MacDonald @Vixenwitch http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/diary/the-school-run/comment-page-1#comment-1880 Anna MacDonald @Vixenwitch Mon, 08 Feb 2010 08:50:10 +0000 http://www.dottymummy.co.uk/?p=498#comment-1880 Loving your blog!! Loving your blog!!

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